THE IMPORTANCE OF A FAMILY AND CHILD THERAPIST.

A family that laughs together, eats together are said to be happy with each other. But sometimes this happiness seems to get cursed and different kinds of problems start cropping up. The bond between the members of the family start getting strained and it feels as though it will never get back to normal ever again. Arguments and disagreements are very normal. Solving of the problem also is equally normal. But when these feuds and problems start getting out of hands it becomes important to visit a family therapist in Mumbai.

Childhood is indeed one of the most beautiful phases of a person’s life. The innocence we have at that age is pure, drama free and without any stress. A time when we can actually set ourselves free and do anything as per our heart’s content, not being accountable as much for it. Everyday activities are taken care of by guardians and we just have to live our lives in that very moment. Eating well, getting a good sleep, managing studying at school, playing games with friends are the only main activities in our lives. But as they say every kid is different, the problem every kid faces might also be different.

Sometimes, kids might be facing problems in their lives and may need child therapy too. Child therapy works on the principle that kids learn by doing and in younger kids, these activities include drawing, playing and talking. For kids that are older, therapists focus on activities that include sharing and ideas so that the inculcate skills that can facilitate their learning. The therapist helps both the parents and the kids to bridge the communication gap between them and find a solution by working towards it together.

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WORK OF A FAMILY COUNSELLOR

Every family has their own set of issues going on. Some get resolved within days while some may take longer, like months. But then sometimes, things can get out of hands. Problems in a family can be due to various reasons. Some of them may be due to some financial crisis, sudden death in the family, some other calamity or anything else that can shatter the family. These instances as per a well-known family therapist can leave a deep impact on a person’s mental health and hence can have a larger impact on the family.

A person’s family is his or her strongest backbone. It is that element of a person’s life that he can fall back on or rely on and count on knowing they are the ones who will never leave no matter what life puts in front of them.

But when this support tends to be collapsing, it becomes important to get a family counselling done. A family counsellor is someone who sits the family down and listen to their problems both individually and collectively to get a deeper understanding of the current situation. Once that is tracked, the counsellor can provide different solutions and exercises that can help the family get through this tough situation.

A family counselling becomes vital when things start getting way too out of hands. Getting this counselling for the family helps strengthen the bond within the family, creates good communication and deeper understanding, build trust and self-esteem, make family happier, improves mental health of the family.

It is important that you choose your family counsellor carefully, just the way you choose your family doctor with a lot of thought. You may find many names on the internet, but it is always a good idea to read the review before booking an appointment. You could even change your counsellor after the first meeting if you feel he or she doesn’t vibe with your family, which is very important.

COUNSELLING FOR COUPLES

Marriages they say are made in heaven. But the two souls need to find each other here on earth to get into this beautiful unification called marriage. Any relationship is a result of efforts put by both people rather that just one. A relationship is like a bicycle. It needs both its tyres to function properly. A both pedals to move forward. Two people in a marriage are the same thing.

But every marriage has its own set of problems. The issues or disputes arise because each human is different, and both the parties are trying to fit into each other’s world or trying to pull the other one to theirs. This can cause friction which leads to sparks. Now before these sparks turn into a major fire, it is always better to get some kind of marriage counselling done. If the matters become so much worse that they cannot be solved by the couple internally, then they may seek help from a third person. This third person could be someone wise from the same family or some friend who is very close to the couple.

But even if this technique fails to make any impact on the couple, then it is time they see a marriage and family therapist. In a marriage there could even be kids involved. Issues between parents can leave a very adverse effect on the kid’s mental state and may also affect his development in his early years.

Seeking a professional’s help would any time be a good decision and the correct thing to do as well. A therapist may not provide with sure shot solution to the problems but will surely help the couple reach an understanding where they both understand each other’s view point. They may provide the couple with exercises that will help in building trust in each other.

TACKING PROBLEMS IN RELATIONSHIP

A relationship involves two people, two different personalities who come together, promising each other acceptance and completeness in their own way. When two people are in love, the initial stages or as many like to call it, the “honeymoon phase” does not last for more than a few months. After this phase is done, people actually start to understand each other. They realise that the person that they are with, might be way different than what they thought they would initially be. This is when the relationship undergoes a test. Problems in relationships start to occur and the couple has a challenge of either making or breaking their relationship.

It sometimes reaches such a crucial stage where staying together becomes too very difficult and they decide to take a break. Any relationship advisor would second this fact that occasions where the couple comes back together after a break, is rare.

When such issues start happening in a long term relationship, tackling issues become more difficult as the two individuals have become co-dependant. Existing without each other comes out of the question for the two and usually hits the hardest on the person more involved.

There are many ways in which these problems can be solved. One way could be talking it out. Another way could also be of talking to friends you trust mutually. But even after all this, if there seems to be no way out, seeking a therapist becomes important. Ending relationships is not always the solution to every problem. Sometimes all that a relationship needs is for the two people to act maturely and address the issues that are hindering the smooth functioning of the relationship.

There is always a way out. All that is needed is for the two people in the relationship to be wanting to solve it and stick together. Sometimes, that is all that matters.

HELPING YOUR CHILD COPE UP

Childhood is one of the most innocent phases of a person’s life. It is in this phase that we can let ourselves loose and free and do what we like. It is a time when our everyday being is taken care of by our parents or guardians and that we have to do is play a lot of games, eat well, have good sleep and of course study too. But every child is different and hence, children can have different problems too. If your kid has a problem it will affect their health, mentally and physically and hence it is important to address these issues as soon as possible.

The problems they face might be related to something in school, extra-curricular classes or their friends. Some problems might be of bigger scale like sexual assault, violence, abuse by teacher or any parent and so on. That is why schools today see to it that they recruit the best child psychologist who not only provides a non-judgemental ear to the children so that they talk to him or her freely but also helps them carve out a solution to it.

Child therapy is based on the fact that kids learn by doing. In younger kids these activities are playing, drawing and talking. In older ones, therapists focus on sharing activities and ideas so that they develop skills to learn.

Now what really happens in a therapy? Initially, the therapist would want to know and listen what actually the problem is. They would want to listen to the child’s side of the story. Then accordingly, they help chalk out a plan so that the child gets a solution in a well-structured manner.

This plan includes a lot of talking, doing activities that teaches the kid about feelings and coping skills and so on.

 

WHEN DOES YOUR FAMILY NEED A THERAPIST?

Every family has issues that they face on a day to day basis. These issues maybe internal or external. When you stay with a family, some amount of disagreement is bound to happen. Small disturbances, refutes is a very common scene between the families. But what happens when these family matters get out of hands and cannot be tackled in a sound minded way? How do you know that it is time to see a family therapist in Mumbai? What might be the biggest signal that says so?

A family is one of the most important elements of any individual’s life. It is that concrete support that helps a person stand strong even in the toughest of situations. There is no second thought that a happy and healthy family is evidently very contended from outside. People experience the greatest of joys when they find immense peace within their family.  Even a little amount of quality time spent with one’s family can be a great amount stress buster for an individual. But as mentioned earlier, every family does see its ups and downs. The attempt at balancing between work life and family life does leave a person in a lot of stress, trying to make the most out of both the worlds.

Sometimes, a sudden change like a mental illness, death, natural disaster, financial crisis can leave a family jolted from its roots. In such a situation, the family members may find it difficult to cope with the same, and each member may react differently to the situations. It is important that these circumstances are seen as challenges which need to be faced with unity.

It definitely is a big decision to decide whether or not marriage and family therapy is correct for a family. But actually, taking this decision might just be a big step towards solving issues. A big step taken towards bringing the family back together like before.

But how do we know that it is time that our family needs a family therapy? This question has its own set of symptoms too. One major sign is difficulty in communication. Disagreement to a certain level is normal. But when this starts getting worse like excessive anger, dear, sadness, and depression and so on it is time that some action be taken. Another extreme of this band is the silent treatment. No communication is also something to be worried about. When the family members are not conversing enough, they aren’t going to have any clue about each other’s life, which is in turn going to ruin the unity between the family. When one or more members of the family express feeling helpless or hopeless it could mean that the will and want to fight back to situations is dying out slowly.

There are many therapists available today. But when it comes to your family, it is important that you do a proper research before choosing any. Check for the reviews that they have and the experience that they bring with themselves. Also, it is not necessary to open up to a therapist all in one go. If you and a therapist don’t vibe, you could very well walk to the next on. But when it comes to family, it is inevitable to be careful.

 

A TABOO NAMED THERAPY

There has always been a lot of prejudice when it comes to seeing a counselling psychologist or getting a stress management therapy. As much as people are aware about mental illness today, there is still a huge chunk of population that sees it as a taboo. They believe that there is nothing as persistent sadness and it is all just a phase of life which will pass with time. However, they fail to understand that having a mental issue is as common as having a cold, but if not treated on time, can worsen and be irretrievable also.

Like we have doctor for everything else today, we have doctors’ therapists for this as well who stress on the importance of stress management. The aim of these doctors is to provide you with a psychology therapy so good, that it successfully gets you out of the misery that you are in. There is a lot of speculation about these psychologists as well. But these doctors are trained to treat their patients with a lot of empathy and provide a completely non-judgemental ear to them. They know that one of the reasons that their patients come to them is also because they do not have someone who they can confide into or someone who would listen to them.

It is a shame that many people who are in dire need of medication and therapy are still no way close to getting the help they need. Many a times they don’t even know that they are in depression, leave alone seeing a counselling therapist. All we as citizens can do is spread awareness in these areas that do not have access to such information as much as possible. So that, in near future, people will approach a therapist just as any other doctor without any pre-notions in their head and get treated and free from their condition.