Are you a believer of ‘love is all that matters in a marriage’, or do you believe that couples would make a success story only if they are compatible with each other, in terms of similarities that draw them closer? Maybe you are amongst those who believe in a bit of both. There are many aspects of a marriage that are undiscovered until you actually live in a marriage. Sometimes it turns out to be as you anticipated, the other times it is just a roller coaster of surprises and realizations. Regardless of what you believe, how much you love, how much you give or compromise, it is an undeniable fact that all marriages at some point face problems, be it small or big. But this fact does not take away anything from what you have put into your marriage. Highs and lows in a relationship are important because they make you realize when you have achieved the high and hit the low; they only help you enhance your relationship because marriage is a teamwork. To achieve the high, or get rid of the low, both need to put in equal effort.
Sometimes, however, it happens so that one partner feels like the other one does not seem to care enough, or is not as considerate. Conflicts may arise because of such reasons, which could be something as basic and simple as a lack of communication or expression. But what is the solution to a problem or conflict that both the partners do not seem to be able to resolve? Breaking up or divorce should certainly not be one unless you believe you have given the marriage enough chances to work out properly. Where there is a hope, there is a will. Where this is a will, there is a way. The way here is consulting a marriage and family therapist.
She is basically a mental health professional, trained in psychotherapy and family systems, licensed to identify the root cause of your problems, studying your beliefs and interpersonal communication and relationship, and ultimately guiding you to a solution, helping you enrich your relationship, by taking your marriage and family therapy. It could be a shipwreck on the shore, or you could sail away forevermore. Is it going to be sink or swim?